The Power of Respect

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What is the bonding cement of all successful relationships be they personal, business or professional? “Respect” Once respect is gone the relationship is dead, it’s like trying to hold up a body without a skeletal frame work. No amount of denial, fake laughter or words of “forgiveness’ will heal or mend the wound. Unfortunately once respect is lost it’s almost impossible to regain.  Many people think they lose respect for someone because they get angry or upset with them, but anger does not mean the loss of respect. A relationship can bounce back from anger, disagreements and even arguments, but if you detour into a loss of respect it is usually over.

The best way I have found to deal with relationships that have gone into disrespect is simply to forgive and end them.  To try and “forgive” and continue with the relationship only causes the disrespect to continue and cause “emotional infection”.  Because we are human we are going to do things that will cause people to lose respect for us, and people will do things that will cause us to lose respect for them.  That is simply a part of life.

You never want to lose respect for anyone, however when it does occur in business you can live, survive and continue to thrive.  But never allow yourself to lose respect for your spouse or family.  Let love reign supreme so that no matter what occurs you never lose respect in that arena of your life.

If you have lost respect for something or someone forgive it, bury it and move on to healing and restoration. Never under estimate the power of “Respect’.  It will build or destroy fortunes.  Here is the interesting thing, many times losing respect for someone is due to our own personal hang ups and someone losing respect for us was a byproduct of their own problems.

The answer I have found is to do your very best in everything you do and that way no matter how the chips fall you can walk with your head held high.  If you do that, you can live and operate in peace when the element of “Respect” fly’s out the window.

If you Respect your financial future, do yourself a favor and turn some of your paper money each week into superior Gold money.  Nothing feels better than saving and having that Gold stuff in your bank.  When  you look at your Gold you will know that you own that money, the rest of the money you earned is gone to the creditors, stores, merchants and a host of others things that you gave your money too.

Don and Melinda Boyer

www.DonBoyerAuthor.com

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“Inner Contentment”

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“Inner Contentment” is the root of all the things we desire in life.  The only reason we desire financial independence, extraordinary relationships and complete health is because we believe those things will bring about that “Inner Contentment” that our soul seeks and craves but for most people their conscience mind is completely oblivious to this fact.  And the truth of the matter is many of those things do in fact bring about the contentment and happiness we seek, at least for a while.

Does that mean we cannot have “Inner Contentment” while we seek to acquire or manifest the things we desire? No of course not, in fact the real secret is that we can obtain that “Inner Contentment” while we seek those things, and if we learn how to obtain it before actually having those things in the physical realm, that Inner Contentment will carry over when they do show up and continue to stay long after those material things have passed away from our life.

The “Secret to Life” is what I will be teaching about in our 2014 Boot Camp.  This is an exclusive event that will be by invite only, I hope you make plans to part of this life changing event.

You can have what you desire, be who you want to become and do whatever you want if you simply take the time to learn how life really works…and it works by divine immutable laws.  If you are not bursting with faith, excitement, hope and concrete plans to make 2014 the most magnificent year of your life you and I need to talk!  Forgive all things you were not happy with in 2013 and say a prayer of gratitude for all the things you were able to accomplish and make it through this year.

Don and Melinda Boyer

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Where There Is Smoke There Is Fire…

At a private lunch with Brian Tracy and the cast of the Journey Movie (www.EmbracetheJourney.net) Brian was sharing some outstanding business advice with all of us.  One thing he said that really stood out and rang a bell with me was; “When you are sharing your business opportunity with your friends and they tell you they are Broke…Believe Them!”  Not only did I laugh so hard I almost CIMG0733farted but I didn’t because I have strong butt muscles, it also took me back in memory 30 years when I would ask, plead, beg and try to convince broke people over and over to buy my product or join my company.  That is like trying to get an infant to be your limousine driver.  Having a mother who was a savvy business owner and entrepreneur, I grew up in an environment of business lingo.  One thing my mother always would say, and I can remember it as far back as 8 years old (I will be 54 this Friday June 14, 2013) is “Where There Is Smoke, There Is Fire”.  After 30 years in business what Brian Tracy said and what my mother used to say is so true.

What I have experienced in all these years of business and working with thousands of people in every field is this, “What you first find in a person, you will find more of it down the road”.  It has never failed when there are signs of trouble up front with a company, a prospect or customer, rough waters will be the platform of that relationship.

When dealing with perspective customers and clients watch out for these warning signs…

  1. If they are broke walk away and don’t try to force your product on them, you will usually lose your product and your profit. 
  1. If they want a payment plan it’s usually a pretty good sign they are broke. 
  1. Those who want to pay less want the most in return. 
  1. If they cannot make a quick buying decision go get a rectal exam, it’s a lot less painful than dealing with this kind of person. 
  1. If they are difficult in the first meeting, lots of unreasonable requests on their part will be in your future. 
  1. Most difficult prospects and customers have a pattern of taking advantage of people and make that their method of operation. 
  1. If they want to make payments they will usually default or find fault with your product or service and try to get it for free or a discount. 
  1. And last but not least, like Brian Tracy said, when they tell you they are broke…believe them.  And as my mom would say…where there is smoke, there is fire! 

Early detection and knowing what signs to look for in dealing with potential and future customers will save you thousands of dollars and untold amounts of grief and misery.  Many years ago I was given a bit of advice from a very wise network marketing Mentor.  The meeting had already started and I was waiting for my guest in the lobby pacing back and forth. I spent a small fortune on dimes in the phone booth (this was way before cell phones were around) trying to call this person at home and of course no answer, (they had not invented answering machines yet either).

As it got later and later and my heart kept sinking deeper and deeper a wise Mentor looked at me and she said; “It’s better to find out early that they are not the right ones than later when you have invested time and money in them”. 

don and brianLearn to qualify your customers and you will make more money, have more peace and love your career a whole lot more.  So the next time you are giving a presentation to someone and you smell smoke, run like Hell and call 911 because there is fire just around the corner!

Special Note: Relax…When you see my offers they are designed to give you the essential tools and resources you need to help you achieve everything you desire.  Here is where the “Relax” part comes in.  You will only respond to our offers when the “Timing” is perfect for you and not a moment sooner…I Guarantee It!   

When someone does not respond to an offer it is simply because the “timing” is not right for them, and when they do respond it’s because the “timing” is perfect for them and both situations are a good thing! So relax and feel safe reading our resource offers, it’s not about selling its all about timing and you are in control of that not me.

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Hope you enjoyed today’s blog.  Thank you for sharing us around the world and at home.  We strive to bring you the best marketing and money-making information available and put it in a personal and fun format.  We appreciate all of you who read our daily blog and whatever you do today join our Free Inner Circle Membership at http://www.DonBoyerAuthor.com

Don and Melinda Boyer

Prospecting Made Easy

There may not be anything more distasteful in the entire realm of business than prospecting.  For most, it is painful, unfruitful and down right unpleasant.  It is usually done under extreme inner protest, and done extremely poorly.  It is any wonder that it produces disgusting results?  The big culprit in all this misery over prospecting and marketing comes from not understanding the process and having a wrong perspective of it.  Far too many professionals view it as begging people to do something they do not want to do and finding great pleasure in slamming the door shut in our face. 

Okay, maybe they don’t articulate it that way, but I promise you that is the mechanics going on inside their noodle. Rejection is always painful; I do not care how tough you say your skin is, or how much you say it does not bother you.  Getting a No and rejection to your offer is like taking a straight kick to the McNuggets.  It hurts even if you are wearing a Cup or don’t have any McNuggets to be kicked into your stomach!

The good news is there are some pro-active things you can do to soften the blow and pain, and in fact make prospecting a lot easier.

Prospecting is about…

Timing: Timing is everything.  When we show up with our offer to people it is more about timing in their life than our selling skills.  If the timing is right, you can sell hard candy to people with no teeth.  If the timing is not right, you could be exchanging hundred-dollar bills for twenty-dollar bills and people will not take them.  If you think I am exaggerating, I run a lot of sponsorship programs where we offer people $11,000 with no strings attached and hundreds refuse to take it!  I used to think it was due to complete stupidity but I leaned its more about wrong timing for them. 

Finding:  Effective and successful prospecting is about people finding you and not so much of you finding them.  It is about attracting customers, not hunting for customers.  You must become visible in the marketplace so that your ideal customers can find and locate you.  They are spending money on the exact same thing you are selling and they might as well spend it with you.  And they will if they can find you.

Identifying:  When you are prospecting you are really going into the marketplace to identify the people you can help, whose timing is just right and want what you are selling. When you go to the fruit section, do you just close your eyes and pick any fruit on the table?  Hell no, you spend 10 minutes expecting, turning over, poking, touching, picking up, putting back and finally identifying the best ones to put in your basket.  Do you put rotten, bug ridden fruit in your basket? No…then why are you accepting rotten customers for?

Eliminating:  When people say No to your offer they are simply eliminating themselves from your target market list.  You are eliminating them from your radar of ideal customers.  When people say No, they are doing you a big favor, they are saving you time, energy and money.  I had the best experience last Sunday when I went to the Flea Market.  A vendor there had a couple of models I was interested in.  When I asked him the price and he told me, I countered with an offer.  He smiled and said, “No, but thank you for the offer”.  I was so impressed with his come back reply, and one I never heard before that I paid him his asking price (then I grumbled to everyone the whole day that I paid too much for the item!).  When I made my offer to him, he immediately identified me and basically but extremely politely and tactfully said “Your ass is out of here”!

When you understand these four dynamics about prospecting, not only does it become easier, but you will find it more productive as well as profitable.  You will be marketing from an intellectual stand point instead of an emotional standpoint.  I guess you could compare it to wearing a cup made out of iron instead of plastic…

Hope you enjoyed today’s blog.  Thank you for sharing us around the world and at home.  We strive to bring you the best marketing and money-making information available and put it in a personal and fun format.  We appreciate all of you who read our daily blog and whatever you do today join our Free Inner Circle Membership at www.DonBoyerAuthor.com

Don and Melinda Boyer